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Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its
own. You may find that skimming through the personal ads has
become your latest habit, searching for the person that meets your
profile needs and desires but without success. Have you been
looking for love but in the wrong profiles, or are you searching
for more that is not written in the lines of a personal ad?
If you read more into a personal ad than what is actually written
in the profile and in the pages of the personal classifieds, you
may find yourself conversing or dating a person that does not have
the same personal dating ideas as you or the same objective in a
relationship which puts you back at the beginning of the process
again.
You already know that the listings in the personal
section are from people just like you, people who want to meet someone
special to fit into their life so starting with the personal ads
is a great way to meet someone. However, maybe you are
reading the profile of someone wanting to find just a friend, or
maybe the profiles you are reading is someone that is also hinting
towards a search for love in a relationship. You need to be
a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching
the personal ads for in finding a companion or lover. You
already know that if the profiles you are reading are not seeking
some type of friendship or relationship, they would not have created
a profile for others to review. However, the steps in deciding
who you will make contact with can be one of the most difficult
in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified
section will require the need to look within yourself discovering
what you type of relationship you are truly in search of.
Are you searching for a friend, for a lover, or are you searching
for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever category you place
yourself in, choose the replies and profiles that meet your standards
in your search for a relationship helping you narrow your search,
which will make the personals much easier to sort through.
If you would sit in front of your computer and continue reading
all of the personal ads presented, you may find yourself overwhelmed
with information and choices to be made. Narrowing your criteria
and the idea of what type of relationship you are searching for
creates the best results.
If you are searching for a friend
or companion only through the personal ads, start with profiles
that state this specifically in their profile, which you will find
many. In discussing profiles of those who are not looking
for a serious relationship, you may find the following phrases used:
want to have a good time',' not looking for a relationship'
and not willing to give my heart away', just want to spend some
time with you' or seeking another with a great listening ear'.
There are various words used expressing friendship, companionship
and those just looking to date. Use these expressions and
words to help you sort through the personal ads narrowing your decision
among the many people listed.
Profiles of people searching
for friendship use words that stick out like: looking for
fun', friendship', no commitments', companion wanted',
only looking for a good time', need help in building my confidence',
I want to roller blade in the park all day', finding words that
express fun and friendship stating no commitments or relationship
will help you sort through the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more than just friends
are? Learn to read more into the written words. Find
descriptions such as looking for love', searching for that someone
special', more than friends', quiet and cozy', easy
going and lovable', special times', treasured moments',
and words similar to lovable'.
So what about your profile,
read over the words again. Does the profile really express
your thoughts about a relationship, what type of relationship you
are seeking and whom you are expecting to meet using the personal
classifieds? Deciding what type of person you are searching for,
what qualities you desire, and how far you want the relationship
to mature are steps in realizing you are taking the right direction
for meeting that someone special through the classifieds.
Clarify your words, express your real thoughts and ideas about who
you are seeking clearly which will aid those that are reading your
profile connect easily with you.
Matching your personality
and the relationship you are seeking with the personal profile or
description of another person that is seeking similar relationships
can be tough but using your feelings of what you want from a relationship
as a basis when reading and sorting through the personals is a great
beginning.
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Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three.
Based in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for DrDating ,
a web site for anyone looking for love online. We have hundreds
of articles, E-Books and links to some great dating and love sites
all over the world. DrDating also offers reviews of some of the
most popular dating sites and books.
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