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Article: Reading Between the Lines
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Reading Between
the Lines by Cheryl Lewis |
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Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its own.
You may find that skimming through the personal ads has become your
latest habit, searching for the person that meets your profile needs and
desires but without success. Have you been looking for love but in the
wrong profiles, or are you searching for more that is not written in the
lines of a personal ad? If you read more into a personal ad than what
is actually written in the profile and in the pages of the personal
classifieds, you may find yourself conversing or dating a person that
does not have the same personal dating ideas as you or the same
objective in a relationship which puts you back at the beginning of the
process again.
You already know that the listings in the personal section are from
people just like you, people who want to meet someone special to fit
into their life so starting with the personal ads is a great way to meet
someone. However, maybe you are reading the profile of someone wanting
to find just a friend, or maybe the profiles you are reading is someone
that is also hinting towards a search for love in a relationship. You
need to be a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads for in
finding a companion or lover. You already know that if the profiles you
are reading are not seeking some type of friendship or relationship,
they would not have created a profile for others to review. However,
the steps in deciding who you will make contact with can be one of the
most difficult in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified section will require the
need to look within yourself discovering what you type of relationship
you are truly in search of. Are you searching for a friend, for a
lover, or are you searching for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever
category you place yourself in, choose the replies and profiles that
meet your standards in your search for a relationship helping you narrow
your search, which will make the personals much easier to sort through.
If you would sit in front of your computer and continue reading all of
the personal ads presented, you may find yourself overwhelmed with
information and choices to be made. Narrowing your criteria and the
idea of what type of relationship you are searching for creates the best
results.
If you are searching for a friend or companion only through the personal
ads, start with profiles that state this specifically in their profile,
which you will find many. In discussing profiles of those who are not
looking for a serious relationship, you may find the following phrases
used: ‘want to have a good time’,’ not looking for a relationship’ and
‘not willing to give my heart away’, ‘just want to spend some time with
you’ or ‘seeking another with a great listening ear’. There are various
words used expressing friendship, companionship and those just looking
to date. Use these expressions and words to help you sort through the
personal ads narrowing your decision among the many people listed.
Profiles of people searching for friendship use words that stick out
like: ‘looking for fun’, ‘friendship’, ‘no commitments’, ‘companion
wanted’, ‘only looking for a good time’, ‘need help in building my
confidence’, ‘I want to roller blade in the park all day’, finding words
that express fun and friendship stating no commitments or relationship
will help you sort through the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more than just friends
are? Learn to read more into the written words. Find descriptions such
as ‘looking for love’, ‘searching for that someone special’, ‘more than
friends’, ‘quiet and cozy’, ‘easy going and lovable’, ‘special times’,
‘treasured moments’, and words similar to ‘lovable’.
So what about your profile, read over the words again. Does the profile
really express your thoughts about a relationship, what type of
relationship you are seeking and whom you are expecting to meet using
the personal classifieds? Deciding what type of person you are searching
for, what qualities you desire, and how far you want the relationship to
mature are steps in realizing you are taking the right direction for
meeting that someone special through the classifieds. Clarify your
words, express your real thoughts and ideas about who you are seeking
clearly which will aid those that are reading your profile connect
easily with you.
Matching your personality and the relationship you are seeking with the
personal profile or description of another person that is seeking
similar relationships can be tough but using your feelings of what you
want from a relationship as a basis when reading and sorting through the
personals is a great beginning.
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Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three. Based
in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for DrDating – a web site for anyone looking for love
online. We have hundreds of articles, E-Books and links to some great
dating and love sites all over the world. DrDating also offers reviews
of some of the most popular dating sites and books.
http://www.DrDating.com/
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